广州社会组织学院

理解“不对劲”,是最好的解决办法

8


明明什么事都没发生,怎么办?

What to Do When Nothing Is Wrong


当你的生活似乎什么事都没发生,你却感到自己不对劲,这种情况是最疑惑的。如果在外界看来你的生活挺好,是什么原因让你有这种不对劲的感受呢?


Wondering “what is wrong with me” can be most perplexing when it seems like there is nothing objectively wrong with your life. If to the outsider observer your life appears to be going well, what could possibly be causing you to feel this way?



除了抑郁以及其他精神疾病的原因,有以下这些原因造成这些感受。

● 你可能一直在过别人眼中的理想生活而不是跟随你自己的价值

● 你可能感觉到自己的工作非常有挑战,希望自己以前选择另一条路

● 你可以完成了一件大事或到达了一个里程碑,现在感到有点失去目标和未来的方向

● 你可能厌倦了你生活的一些方面,希望有所改变


这些情况的共同点是,你感觉你的生活里缺失了什么,这让你感觉到不对劲。这可能是最难解决的问题,因为在外人看来,你应该很开心才对。


Beyond the possibility of depression, or another mental health issue, there could be a number of different reasons you feel this way. Below are some possible causes:

● You might be trying to live up to the ideals of others rather than following your own values.

● You might not feel challenged in your job, or wish that you had chosen a different path.

● You might have achieved a big goal or milestone, and now feel a bit aimless about your future path.

● You might be bored with some aspect of your life, and wishing that you could make a change.

The common thread across these factors is that there is something missing in your life that is causing you to feel that something is wrong. This can be the hardest problem to solve, because to the outside objective observer, you should be perfectly happy.



然而,并不需要你的生活发生什么灾难性的错误,你就会感受到不对劲。在这些情况下,写日记可能可以帮助你触及到自己感受的深处,尤其是在没有心理健康的困扰去促使你向心理治疗师(或咨询师)求助的时候。


当你写日记的时候,保持好奇,问你自己问题,做什么会让你感觉好一些。不断地往下问问题,知道你开始找到一些问题的答案。这个自由写作的过程可以帮助你挖掘到一些情绪是你在日常生活中接触不到的。


However, there doesn’t have to be anything catastrophically wrong with your life for you to feel that there is something wrong with you. In cases like this, writing in a journal could help you get to the bottom of your feelings. This is especially true if there is no mental health concern that would nudge you toward seeing a therapist.

When writing in your journal, be curious and ask yourself questions about what would make you feel better. Keep digging until you start to find some answers. The process of free writing can be a helpful way to unearth emotions that you might not be in touch with during your daily life.



最后留给你的一些话。

A word from Verywell


如果你跟“我到底怎么了”这个想法纠缠着,可能会很难知道哪里开始做改变。通常,去理解自己感受背后的原因会帮助你做出最好的行动。


你的身体是否感觉不太舒服?可能是时候去看医生了。同样的,心理问题也是这个道理。


你是不是感觉到生活压力很大,让你感觉很难受?这种情况下,你最好是去规划,计划怎么缓解压力,计划怎么改善你的生活。


If you are struggling with the thought that there is something wrong with you, it can be hard to know where to start to make changes. Often, getting to the root of the cause of your feelings will help you to figure out the best course of action.

Are you not feeling well physically? Then it may be time to make an appointment with your doctor. The same could be true if you are not feeling well mentally.  

Are you facing stressful life circumstances that are making you feel like something is wrong? In this case, your best course of action might be to make a plan to relieve stress and improve what is going on in your life.



另外,如果你没办法找到是什么让你感觉不对劲,那可能是最难的一种情况。在这种情况下,最好的方法是,静下来,听听自己内心的想法。


当你开始认得你想法的模式以及学习到怎么改变你的想法时,你会开始体验到你想要的东西,然后你会在一个更好的位置去改变自己的生活,不用再烦恼自己到底怎么了。


On the other hand, if you can’t pinpoint what is making you feel like something is wrong, this can be the hardest problem to solve. In this case, it’s likely time for you to start getting quiet and start listening to your own thoughts.

When you start to recognize patterns in your thoughts and learn about how to change your thoughts so that you start to experience the outcomes that you want, then you will be in a better position to start making changes in your life so that you can stop wondering what is wrong with you.



最后,如果你还是很挣扎,而且感觉做什么都没用,很重要的是要去寻求帮助。你不是唯一一个有这些想法和感觉不对劲的人,很多平台上会有一些受过训练的志愿者等着帮你梳理你的情况以及帮助你找到你的解决路径。


Finally, if you are struggling and nothing seems to be helping, it’s important to reach out for help. You are not the only one who is having thoughts that there is something wrong with you, and there are trained volunteers waiting to help you worth through your situation and find solutions to get you on a better path.



  • 作者 | Arlin Cuncic

  • 翻译 | 王铭悦

  • 文章来源 | verywellmind

  • 插图 | Alexandra Dikaia


广州社会组织学院
广州社会组织学院
广州社会组织学院开展社会组织和社会服务有关研究及调研;组织开展社会组织和社会服务有关咨询和评估、培训等;组织开展国内外社会组织交流,促进国内社会组织开展;承接政府职能转移和委托事项。
公众号