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为什么你会感觉到自己不对劲?

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你有没有想过,“我到底怎么了?”

如果有的话,你并不孤单。


几乎每个人,在不同的时候,有过这个想法。对于一些人而言,是一瞬间的自我怀疑;对于另一些人,这可能是一辈子都感觉自己不够好的感受。在一些案例里,这个现象可能反映着你当下正处于某个特殊的境地让你怀疑自己能不能撑过去。


无论你感觉自己不对劲的原因是什么,你知道,会有一些行动可以让你开始感觉到好一些。


此外,很重要的是,当那个感受来的时候,不要急着把它推开,而是花点时间和这些感受坐下来,好好探索一下他们。如果做这件事会让你感觉到受不了,考虑一下跟心理健康的专业人士谈一谈你心里发生着什么。


Have you ever thought, “What is wrong with me?” If so, you are not alone.

Nearly everyone, from time to time, has had that thought. For some, it’s a fleeting moment of self-doubt, while for others it might be a lifelong feeling of not measuring up or not being good enough. And in some cases, it may reflect the fact that you are currently in a particular set of circumstances that has you questioning whether you can make it through.

Whatever the cause of you feeling that something is wrong with you, know that there are actions you can take to start to feel better.

In addition, it’s also important not to push that feeling away when it comes. Instead of pushing your feelings away, take the time to sit with them and explore them. And if the thought of doing that feels overwhelming, consider talking to a mental health professional about what you are going through.



为什么你会感觉到自己不对劲?

Why You Feel Like Something Is Wrong With You


在我们讨论怎么去管理这种感到自己不对劲的感受之前,我们思考一下可能的原因。从临时的人生挫折到长期的身体或心理上的疾病,有很多的潜在因素构成你感觉自己不对劲的原因。检查以下的列表,看看有没有可以跟你现在的生活状况引起共鸣的。


Before we can discuss how to manage the feeling that something is wrong with you, let’s consider the possible causes. From temporary life setbacks to enduring a long physical or mental illness, there are multiple potential reasons why you might feel that something is wrong. Check the list below and see if any of these resonate with your current life circumstance.


感觉到不堪重负


当你想到自己哪里不对劲的时候,大部分是一种不堪重负的感觉,还是一种无法清晰地思考的感觉?或者你有没有感到你难以跟得上你要执行的义务和你需要做的事情?


有时候,你感觉到不对劲可能反映着你就是面临着很有挑战性的一个生活处境。这可能是过大负荷的工作、沉重的家庭责任、财务压力,又或者其他的一些情况,让你感觉到你难以跟得上生活的节奏。


When you think about something being wrong with you, is it mostly a feeling of being overwhelmed or that you can’t think straight? Or do you feel like you can’t keep up with all of your obligations and things you need to do?  

Sometimes, the feeling that something is wrong with you might reflect that you simply have a very challenging set of life circumstances. It might mean that you have an overly demanding job, heavy family responsibilities, financial stress, or any other number of situations that would lead to feeling like you can’t keep up with the pace of life.



感觉卡住了


你有没有感觉到自己的生活卡住了?当别人都有自己的事情要去解决,而你没有?又或者你挣扎着离开上一段恋情、离开之前不喜欢的工作、以及把自己从一段有毒的关系里面解放出来?


如果你对自己的生活有一个具体的构想,而你又感觉自己不是在过着自己想要的生活,这可能会带给你不对劲的感觉。


Do you feel somehow stuck in your life, as though everyone else has things figured out but you don’t? Or are you struggling to get over a breakup, move on from a job you hate, or free yourself of a toxic relationship?

If you have specific ideas of what your life should be like, and you feel as though you are not living the life you want, this could lead you to the thought that something is wrong with you.


感觉到孤独


有很多因素让你感受到孤独或寂寞。或许你跟家人关系紧张,或许对于交新朋友感觉焦虑。通常,因为孤独而感到不对劲意味着你挣扎着在生活里建立你想要的社会关系。


A number of factors can leave you feeling alone or lonely. Perhaps you have strained relationships with family or anxiety about making new friends. Usually, feeling that there is something wrong with you because you are lonely means that you struggle to make the social connections that you want in life.



经历着创伤


如果你感到自己不对劲,可能是你正经历着创伤,或者正慢慢从创伤体验中恢复过来。这可能是个明显的创伤,例如失去挚爱、被暴力对待,或者经历着悲惨的生活处境,像房子着火。


然而,创伤可能以更隐秘的方式出现,例如,和一个自恋的虐待者居住。各种形式的创伤都有可能给你的精神状态带来重大的影响;如果这些发生在你身上,建议你向专业人士求助。


If you’ve been asking what is wrong with you, it may be the case that you are experiencing trauma or recovering from having experienced trauma. This could be obvious trauma, such as losing a loved one, being the victim of violence, or experiencing a tragic life circumstance such as a house fire.

However, trauma can also come about in more insidious ways such as living with a narcissistic abuser. Trauma in all forms can have a significant impact on your mental state; if this is what is happening for you, seeking help from a professional is usually advised.


经历着生理上的病痛


你感受到的不对劲是否跟你的身体有关?你是否有被诊断出疾病,以及经历着一些新的症状?或者你有些症状是不明白为什么的以及未被诊断的,你很可能感觉到迷惑和担心你的身体在发生着什么。


在这种情况下,去想“我到底怎么了?”,是非常正常的。通常,这个答案在于通过专业的医生去找到问题的根源。


Is your feeling of something being wrong tied to something related to your body? Whether you have a diagnosed illness and are experiencing new symptoms, or you have symptoms that have yet to be understood or diagnosed, you are probably feeling confused and worried about what is going on with your body.

In this case, it’s perfectly normal to be thinking, “What is wrong with me.” And often, the answer lies in getting to the bottom of the problem through help from a medical professional.



缺乏自我价值感


有时候感觉不对劲的原因可能来自于低自尊或低自我价值感。无论这种感受与现实状况相不相符,根本不重要;这是你对自己的感觉,影响着你的思维模式。

当你感到缺乏自尊或自我价值的时候,它会渗透在你生活的各个领域,让你感受到自己总是能力不足。很多时候,在这种情况下的解决方式是,去识别呈现在你自尊问题里的核心价值,可能是一些根植在自身的羞耻感或内疚感。


Sometimes the feeling of there being something wrong with you can originate in low self-esteem or low self-worth. Whether or not this feeling reflects reality isn’t really important; it’s your perception of yourself that impacts your mindset.  

When you have a lack of self-esteem or self-worth, this will permeate every area of your life, leaving you feeling as though you don’t feel you measure up in any capacity. Often, the solution in this situation is to identify the core values underlying your self-esteem problem, which might be rooted in feelings of shame or guilt.


面临着精神健康问题


最后的一个让你感觉到不对劲的潜在原因,可能是你事实上患了可被诊断的精神疾病,例如抑郁症、焦虑症,或者人格障碍等。


就跟生理疾病一样,最好就是找到专业的精神科医生去进行诊断和治疗。然后,去尽可能学习发展一些技能去应对管理自己的精神健康也很重要。


One last potential cause of feeling that there is something wrong with you could in fact be a diagnosable mental illness such as depression, an anxiety disorder, or a personality disorder.

Just as with a physical illness, the best course of action in these cases is to speak to a mental health professional for diagnosis and treatment. However, it’s also important to develop coping skills to manage your mental health on your own as much as possible.


  • 作者 | Arlin Cuncic

  • 翻译 | 王铭悦

  • 文章来源 | verywellmind

  • 插图 | Brandon James Scott

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